Male-Bashing is old fashion.

 As females, we never give men a chance to grow. We always push for them to be men and act like men, but we don't know how to be women ourselves. I was in the middle of doing my Gender Studies homework and I went to pay my FB a visit. I came across a female status which stated "I wish I got surprises and stuff isn't that the point of having a boyfriend" that wasn't the interesting part. The interesting part was when a female said "nope. They're just around for sex nd emotional support" and I was flabbergasted.Even more flabbergasted at three people liking this comment -- yes were young and were told that relationships aren't that "serious" or "they won't last" but, the reason they aren't lasting because a mind set like that.

Of course we know , it takes a while for boys to become men or even "grow up", we have to let them grow and develop into their own. As woman we are pushy for the things that we feel we deserve. Always forcing and forcing and forcing can push someone away. 

Complaining how he isn't good enough on FB is like telling all his homeboys his penis is small -- as far as men being around for only sex and emotional support that a mindset, that woman over years, have become accustom to -- men aren't that bad, not bad at all. We always discredit them, especially african american woman, we regurgitate things, what we heard our mother say about our absent fathers (not saying this is all cases), we listen to our friends, and we let heartbreak dissolve our faith in guys period. One thing for sure, sometimes as female we give people titles and get upset when they don't live up to our exceptions of whom we want them to be. Sometimes, we blame a broken heart on men, instead of realizing we fooled ourselves MEN ARE NOT COMPLICATED they do not move in complex forms, MOST are straight forward.

Back to the topic, We are so caught in being "queens" and "princesses","ride or die","main girls" in our mind we forget about reality, let go of the fallacies and wake up. While we are always blaming men for not doing something, I realize we never let them know we appreciate them or we care or we see that they're trying but we are very quick , to tell them when they're doing something wrong I am guilty of this too. ask yourself, do you surprise him? do you kept him interested? do you invest in his emotions as much as you expect him to invest in yours? A relationship is 50/50 and full of compromising please, don't let FB dehumanized relationships.  


Relationships aren't valued, you should never pour your heart out in the pool full of sharks (FB) it will rip you to shreds such as the comment. Communication is everything of course and eliminate the FB communication! What I have notice, is FB is not a gateway for emotions when your in a relationship nine time out of ten, your boyfriend has a whole bunch of bitter females on this newsfeed, he may hardly recognize yours and consider it in your genotype. If he isn't surprising you,surprise him with nice gifts then maybe he'll catch the hint!

Well I have to go back to work, I just had to get that out sidenote: If your dealing with a man and that's all he wants and you know it, you're an asshole, know your worth always.